Pampered as kids, men can’t handle rejection: Psychiatrists

Pampered as kids, men can’t handle rejection: Psychiatrists

DNA Correspondent

Whether it was production house owner Jerrit G John, who flung a chemical on physiotherapist Aryanka Hosbetkar, or collegian Nikhil Bankar, who stabbed his former girlfriend eight times and then killing himself on Chetana College premises, in both these cases the attackers could not handle the fact that the girl wanted out.     And psychiatrists feel that the Indian society is to be blamed, to some extent, for men not able to accept rejection.     According to psychiatrists, parents tend to pamper their sons more than their daughters from childhood. “Till date, there are several Indian families where a boy is given priority over daughter. This is one reason behind men not being able to accept rejection,” reasoned Dr Seema Hingorany, a clinical psychologist.     She added that in a city like Mumbai it is also the loneliness and failure to talk about one’s problems that leads to such crimes against women. “Men in our society have inflated ego. In my practice, I have found that a man will never cry or talk about their problems, unlike a woman. Lack of communication and loneliness lead to outburst of aggression in the form of crime,” said Dr Hingorany.    Doctors also feel that even in the 21st century, women empowerment in our society has been very slow. “We have more ‘do nots’ for our daughters, but give many liberties to our sons. This has somewhere led to the men’s inability to accept rejection. Men are still viewed as the protector, the symbol of bravery and martyrdom and it is unconsciously drilled in our mind through movies and mythology,” said Dr Harish Shetty, senior psychiatrist, LH Hiranandani Hospital.    However, a pampered childhood minus responsibility are only contributing factors. “These factors add up to a weak mind-set. I advise parents to be friends with their child’s friends to know what is happening in his or her life,” suggested Dr Fabian alemida, child psychiatrist. Courtesy:

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